Dolasci starica u Sigurnu kuću neke su od najpotresnijih scena u toj ustanovi koja je u proteklih šest godina rada bila utočište za 737 žena i dece.

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U najvećem broju slučajeva starije žene odlaze iz svojih domova i sklanjaju se u Sigurnu kuću kako bi se zaštitile od nasilja koje trpe od svoje dece. U manjem broju slučajeva, starije žene zlostavljaju njihovi partneri, izjavila je za Medijski istraživački centar direktorka Sigurne kuće za žene i decu žrtve porodičnog nasilja Sonja Šćekić.

Prema njenim rečima od početka godine ta ustanova zbrinula je ukupno 111 žena i dece, a tri žene imale su više od 65 godina. Prošle godine Sigurna kuća bila je utočište za 137 žena i dece, a osam žena bilo je starije 65 godina.

“Nasilnici su uglavnom deca žrtve koja su zavisnici od alkohola ili psihoaktivnih supstanci. Za sve starije žene koje dodju u Sigurnu kuću zajedničko je to da su veoma dugo trpele porodično nasilje. Starijim ženama treba puno više vremena da se odluče da prijave nasilnika nego mladjim ženama, naročito ukoliko je nasilnik njihovo dete. Čak i kada budu smeštene u Sigurnu kuću one pričaju o tom svom detetu sve najlepše. Uvek nastoje da opravdaju njegovo ponošanje, uvek pokušavaju da pronadju razloge zbog čega je nasilan. Uglavnom o pričaju lepe stvari o  detetu, makar iz perioda njegovog detinjstva, kada je ono bilo dobro i poslušno”, izjavila je Šćekić.

                                                          Sonja Šćekić

Ona je istakla da je naša država  puno uradila na ohrabrivanju žena kako bi što prijavile nasilnike i potražile pomoć.  Žene, dodala je Šćekić, imaju sve više poverenja u državne ustanove i institucije, a stupio je na snagu i novi Zakon o sprečavanju nasilja u porodici  koji je uveo nove mere pomoći žrtvama nasilja.

"Naša iskustva govore da su žene ranije trpele nasilje u proseku deset godina pre prijavljivanja nasilnika, a sada je to vreme smanjeno na pet godina. Dosta toga se promenilo i u shvatanju ljudi.  Zajedničkim radom ustanova, institucija  i medija, menja se svest ljudi i sve manji broj osoba smatra da je sramota da žena prijavi nasilje i napusti nasilnika. U 2015. godini nasilniku se vratilo 50 odsto korisnica Sigurne kuće. U 2016. godini bilo ih je 30 odsto, a ove godine 17 odsto", naglasila je Šćekić.

Prema njenim rečima, posle boravka u Sigurnoj kući neke od starijih žena se ipak vraćaju svojoj kući i nasilniku jer kažu da žele “da umru” u svojoj kući. Ima i onih starica, dodala je Šćekić, koje odlaze u Gerontološki centar i kod rodjaka, a jedna starija žena je iznajmila stan i počela da živi sama.

“Za vreme boravka u Sigurnoj kući žene žrtve nasilja imaju psihoterpaiju i radi se na njihovom osnaživanju, ali odluku o tome gde će otići posle boravka u Sigurnoj kući donose potpuno samostalno. Brigu o njima nakon odlaska odavde preuzima Centar za socijalni rad, odnosno voditelji slučajeva u toj ustanovi”, objasnila je Šćekić.

Ona je istakla da iz Sigurne kuće poručuju svim ženama koje trpe nasilje, bez obzira koliko godina imaju,  da tome stanu na put, prijave nasilnika i  potraže pomoć jer postoje državne ustanove i institucije koje mogu da im pomognu.

U Policijskoj upravi u Nišu istakli su za Medijski istraživački centar da je na području te uprave u period od januara do oktobra ove godine evidentirano 355 krivičnih dela nasilja u porodici, a u istom period prošle godine bilo ih je 306.

Prema podacima niške policije za četiri meseca primene novog Zakona o sprečavanju nasilja u porodici, od 1. juna 2017. godine do 1. oktobra 2017. godine, izrečeno je ukupno 596 hitnih mera i to 416 mera zabrane prilaska žrtvama nasilja i 180 mera iseljenja počinioca nasilja iz stana.

Koordinator Tima za sprečavanje nasilja u porodici  Policijske uprave u Nišu Nataša Zorić Živanović istakla je da žene predstavljaju 80 odsto svih žrtava porodičnog nasilja na području te uprave, a  20 odsto njih starije je od 60  godina.

“Dominira psihičko nasilje, a nasilnici su najčešće deca i bračni drugovi, a ponekad  unuci. Događa se da žrtve duže vreme trpe torturu ali je ne prijavljuju jer, kako kažu, vole svoje članove porodice i ne žele da oni budu kažnjeni. Uglavnom prijavljuju nasilje tek kada ono preraste iz psihičkog u fizičko. Nasilje nad starijim uglavnom prijavljuju članovi šire porodice, komšije, prijatelji, rodbina ili oni sami. Neretko se dešava da kada prijavljuju porodično nasilje policiji žrtve čine to sa željom da članovi porodice budu samo upozoreni. Medjutim, policija postupa po zakonu. O svakoj prijavi nasilja u porodici bez odlaganja se obaveštavaju nadležna tužilaštva i Centar za socijalni rad”, rekla je Zorić Živanović.

                                                          Nataša Zorić Živanović

Ona je kazala da, kada su u pitanju bračne zajednice, postoje različite prijave supružnika i prvenstveno se prijavljuju svađe oko nekih običnih stvari. Medjutim, ima prijava i veoma ozbiljnih slučajeva u kojima muškarac konzumira alkohol a potom zlostavlja suprugu i nanosi joj teške telesne povrede.

“Primenom novog Zakona o sprečavanju nasilja u porodici policijski službenici su dobili nešto šira ovlašćenja i mogu da deluju preventivno. Osnovna novina koju je doneo Zakon je da u svakom pojedinačnom slučaju policija ima mogućnost da deluje preventivno u smislu da spreči buduće nasilje primenom mere zabrane prilaska i komuniciranja nasilnika sa žrtvom, kao i primenom mere privremenog iseljenja nasilnika iz stana”, izjavila je Zorić Živanović.

Prema njenim rečima, policijski službenici koji rade na poslovima sprečavanja nasilja u porodici su ljudi sa iskustvom, koji su ranije radili i na najtežim krivičnim delima.

Svaka prijava nasilja, dodala je ona,  priča je za sebe i da bi je sagledali policijski službenici se upoznaju sa životnim prilikama počiniocima nasilja i žrtve.

Zorić Živanović je dodala da su specijalizovanu obuku za postupanje po prijavi nasilja u porodici u Policijskoj upravi u Nišu  od početka godine završila 32 službenika. Njih 14 radi u samom Nišu, a 18 je raspoređeno u šest policijskih stanica – Aleksincu, Ražnju, Gadžinom Hanu, Svrljigu, Merošini i Doljevcu. Sve policijske stanice kao i Policijska uprava u Nišu imaju svoje kooordinatore Timova za sprečavanje nasilja u porodici.

Piše: B.Ljubisavljević

Foto: Saša Đorđević

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The tears of the abused old women hurt the most

The arrivals of the old women in the Security House are some of the most disturbing scenes in that institution that has been a shelter for 737 women and children in the past six years of work.
In most cases, elderly women leave their homes and get sheltered in a safe house to protect themselves from the violence they suffer from their children. In a minority of cases, older women are abused by their partners, the director of the Safe House for women and children, victims of domestic violence, Sonja Scekic told the Media Research Center.

According to her, since the beginning of the year, the institution has taken care of 111 women and children, and three women had more than 65 years of age. Last year, the Safe House was a refuge for 137 women and children, and eight women were aged over 65 years.

"The abusers are mostly children of the victims, who are addicts of alcohol or psychoactive substances. For all the elderly women who come to the Security House, it is common that they had been suffering from domestic violence for a very long time. Older women need much more time to decide to report abusers than younger women, especially if their abuser is their child. Even when they are housed in the Security House, they are talking about their child all the best. They always try to justify his behavior, always trying to find reasons why he is violent. It's mostly about telling nice things about a child, at least from his childhood period, when he was good and obedient, "said Scekic.

She pointed out that our country has done a lot to encourage women to report the perpetrators and seek help. Women, Šćekić added, have more and more confidence in state establishments and institutions, and a new Law on the Prevention of Domestic Violence has come into force, which introduced new measures to help victims of violence.

"Our experience shows that women used to suffer violence for ten years before reporting the perpetrators, and now that time has been reduced to five years. A lot has changed also in the understanding of people. With the joint work of establishments, institutions and the media changes have been made in the people’s consciousness and fewer people now feel that it is a shame that women report violence and leave the perpetrators. In 2015, 50 percent of Safe House beneficiaries returned to their abuser, while in 2016 there were 30 percent of them, and this year 17 percent, "said Scekic.

According to her, after staying in the Safe House, some of the elderly women are still returning to their home and abuser because they say they want to "die" in their home. There are those old women, added Scekic, who go to the Gerontology Center and their relatives, and one elderly woman rented an apartment and started living alone.

"During the stay in the Safe House, women, victims of violence, have psychotherapy and it is worked on their empowerment, but the decision about where they will go after staying in the Safe House, that’s only up to them. The care for those women after departure is taken over by the Center for Social Work, that is, the case leaders in that institution, "explained Scekic.

She pointed out that from the Safe House they are telling all women who suffer violence, regardless of how many years they have, to put an end to it, to report violators and seek help because there are state institutions and other institutions that can help them.

At the Police Department in Niš, they pointed out to the Media Research Center that in the period from January to October this year, 355 criminal acts of domestic violence were registered in the area of ​​that administration, while in the same period last year there were 306 cases.
According to the data of the Nis police department for four months since implementation of the new Law on Prevention of Domestic Violence, from June 1, 2017 to October 1, 2017, a total of 596 emergency measures were issued, 416 of them referring to the prohibition of access to victims of violence and 180 measures for the eviction of the perpetrator of violent act from the apartment.

Nataša Zorić Živanović, the Coordinator of the Team for the Prevention of Domestic Violence in the Police Administration in Niš, pointed out that women account for 80% of all victims of domestic violence in the area of ​​that administration, while 20% of them are older than 60 years.
"The psychological violence is dominant, and the perpetrators are mostly children and spouses, and sometimes grandchildren. It happens that victims suffer torture for a long time, but they do not report because, they say, they love their family members and do not want them to be punished. They mostly report violence only when it turns from psychic to physical. Violence against the elderly is mainly reported by members of the wider family, neighbors, friends, relatives or themselves. It often happens that when reporting family violence to the police, the victims do so with the desire that family members be warned only. However, the police act in accordance with the law. Every report of domestic violence is notified to the competent prosecutor's offices and the Center for Social Work without delay, "Zoric Zivanovic said.
She said that, when it comes to marital communities, there were different reports of spouses and quarrels about some common things are primarily reported. However, there are also very serious cases in which a husband consumes alcohol and then abuses his wife and inflicts serious bodily injuries to her.

"With the application of the new Law on the Prevention of Domestic Violence, police officers have received some broader authorizations and can act preventively. The basic novelty passed by the Law is that in each individual case, the police have the ability to act preventively in the sense of preventing future violence using the measure of prohibiting access and communication of the perpetrators with the victim, as well as applying the measure of temporary eviction of the perpetrators from the apartment, "said Zoric Zivanovic.

Text: B. Ljubisavljević

Translation: Mladen Djordjević

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